Thursday, April 23, 2009

A moment of sadness

I suddenly got spanked by sadness this morning. Out of the blue, I cried my lung out again.. Why are women so sentimental? why can't we be more manly and conscious? I try to keep myself busy and occupy, I know I'll breakdown again, if I let to have free time.
I never love a man this deeply and whole heartedly before... I love him more than my own life.. I know if he doesn't wants me, nothing can makes him stay. I know I have to let go... to start on with a new life... I know time can heal, but the scar will forever be there... as he has hurted me deeply.. Its really hard to forgive and forget.. I know I have to try really hard..

I received an email from Jo, I wish to share with all my ladies friends.

[1] If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
[2] If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
[3] Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
[4] Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
[5] Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
[6] Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
[7] If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't be "friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
[8] Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
[9] The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
[10] Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
[11] Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
[12] Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
[13] Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
[14] You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
[15] Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
[16] He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
[17] Never let a man define who you are.
[18] Never borrow someone else's man.
[19] If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
[20] A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
[21] All men are NOT dogs.
[22] You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two- way street.
[23] You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
[24] You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary .....not supplementary.
[25] Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
[26] Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
[27] Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
[28] Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
[29] Keep him in your radar but get to know others.



Dont worry dear. Time will heal all wounds.

Josephine said...

Very good facts!
You deserve a better one...

Joanna Tang said...

Family first:I Hope too, thanks.

Josephine:Hand it to God, Ganpahteh! Thx, friend.

Jen ® said...

i understand how you feel because i've gone thru the same thing. pls don't be the prisoner to that emotional torture because it's not worth to cry over a man who doesn't care for you anymore. there are still many good guys out there. open up yourself, enjoy life and i'm sure you'll be okay soon :)

Joanna Tang said...

Jen:Thanks for your encouragement ^_^

Sorry to hear that u also gone through the same problem... we must treat ourselves better ya!

Shingo T said...

Me speaking from a man's views, what Oprah said is very true.

The crisis of today will be the joke of tomorrow. Move on, and someday you will look back at this and smile.

The end is nothing but the start of something sweeter. Move on, girl!

Joanna Tang said...

Shingo T:Thanks,will try my best to move on, the pain still so unbearable, but i know i have to face the reality that, tis man will never come back to me anymore.

Towards healthy and leisure life~! said...

Joanna, when you're too hectic / miserable, why not take few days of holiday go for a vacation? relax by yourself... you'll get better after that...

Towards healthy and leisure life~! said...

something to cheer you up, go watch very nice...

Joanna Tang said...

Towards healthy & leisure life:Ya, plan to, gotta budget.. thx for the website.. will go see.. ^_^

amei79 said...

hope u can escape from the down/hard time very soon, be strength & brave....u can do it...cheer up!