Tuesday, August 18, 2009

What a bad day!

I bumped into my ex mother in law at Kenyalang market this morning.. it was like bumping into horrible ghost at 12 midnite. I was having my breakfast with friends at 2nd floor food stall. I think she must have saw me first before I saw her lah... She intentionally stand behind me and shouted at dunno who... then, when i turn around... oh my! shit! Its her... my friends were also shocked to see her, as she has such a heavy make up... super red blusher, blue eyes shadow and super super red lip... she's damn proud of herself 1, u know! She remark herself that she has got the most translucent complexion.

I really can't forget how she tortured and humiliated me during my past 11 years marriage. She makes me knee down on the floor to wash her clothing, while I am 6-7 months pregnant. She makes me wash her soiled panties, sometimes, even with shit and urine... U know! as daughter in law, I never deserve to have the share for the chicken thigh or good food. It's only reserve for the emperor and queen in the family... Whenever I am out dining with friends, by any chance there is fried chicken wing, I will start puzzling whether can i take the wing or not? My past still shadowing me...

The most unbearable memory is... she loves to sprinkle salt and vinegar to taunt the son to whack me... She claimed that during her times, her mother in law can have the authority to smack their daughter in law, if they dun take instruction correctly... TRY ME LAH! shit!

Believe it or not? my ex-husband never subsidize me even a single cent for household nor milk powder for our kids. Moreover, I am requested to buy grocery every beginning of the month, the reason is, I am staying under their bloody roof...

Every saturday, I even have to cook for all the brothers, sisters, brother in law, sister in law, cat & dog, around 18 of them. U know, they never willing to come a bit early to help up... always come right on the dot, sometimes, even while I still cooking, they already sit their butt down and enjoying the meal, I feel myself like an Indonesian housemaid... After they finished their meal, they will normally just lift their butt and move to the living room, while I have to do the cleaning and washing.

When i think of my past, I really sallute myself for been able to go through the harsh pace...

I managed to divorce him with a help from a closed friend. (Thanks, TP... I'm grateful) We have joint custody over the 2 kids, but... wat's the different, kids are always under my full care... he is fully occupied for his own wild nite life...

So, ladies... think, observe, see, feel, sense the man, before you marry them... of course, not everyone of them are evil, but prevention is better than treatment, right! Maybe, I'm the only unlucky 1.

11 comments:

Josephine said...

You are considered lucky cos you were able to divorce...

Stop thinking about the past!!!
The future is more important!

Ganpahteh!!!
Your kids need u!!!

Be happy!

Joanna Tang said...

Jo:Yalah! just suddenly bumped into her, then trigger me...

J.H said...

Hi Joanne,
I must salute you for what you have gone through! You are an incredible woman.
I know it's harder said than done, but I guess now you just need to forgive your mother in law, not for her sake, but for your sake :-) so that you can move on with your life and be happy.
And I believe that's going to put more fire on her anger knowing that you hold no grudges against her.

Joanna Tang said...

J.H:I just couldn't let go of it so easily loh, the scar and pain are still there *_* will try hard lah! thx, dear.

A Common Singaporean said...

You certainly have great courage.

For a mother of two, it takes a lot of guts to move on in your life, considering whatever actions you do will affect your kids.

From what I read, I am glad you did what you did. And I am sure your happy days outdo your unhappy days right now.

U must have always wondered what are the great possibilities out there after your divorce. If there is something u wanna do, go get it! Have fun in the great future!

Will visit yr blog often.

Cheers!

Joanna Tang said...

Common Singaporean:Hi hi! thx for visiting my blog..thanks million for ur great encouragement, it certainly motivate me ^_*

jen said...

the way you described your ex-MIL is so funny, haha! that woman is definitely horrible, how could she make you wash her underwear??! make me wanna strangle her with her dirty panties

Joanna Tang said...

jen:Not only feel wanna strangle her, wanna stuck it into her mouth lah..

So,never ever compromise to stay in with in law, no matter how deep and strong is ur relationship with ur love 1..

Shingo T said...

Gosh, your case sounds really extreme.

Seriously, most man are better. Don't lose faith.

MeRy said...

Joanne.....You are super lucky now...out from that miserable life...I can't imagine how fierce is ur ex-MIL....like fierce dog,I guess.If i were you....I dun think I can stand her for so long.

Joanna Tang said...

Shingo T:I wish I can meet my Mr Right! LOL!

MeRy:I think I must be a bit mad.. able to stand her for so long..hehe!